Q:  Do we have to memorise our vows?

A:  It’s a legal requirement that you speak your marriage vows to each other.  You don’t have to memorise your vows (that’s too much pressure!) and you have the option to either repeat them or read them to each other. It’s your choice.

Q:  I don’t like my middle name. Does this have to be mentioned during the ceremony?

A:  Unfortunately, yes. At some stage during the ceremony your full name (including your middle name) has to be said for the purpose of legal identification. However, you don’t need to say it during your vows if you don’t want to. As long as it has been mentioned before then, you can simply use your first name only.

Q:  Do we need to have a rehearsal?

A:  The answer to this is, “It’s your choice.” I find about 50% of couples decide to have a rehearsal and 50% decide to ‘wing it’ on the day. A wedding rehearsal may help calm your nerves and make you feel a bit more relaxed if you’re feeling anxious about the big day.

Q:  How do I change my surname after the wedding?

A:  If you want to change your surname after the wedding you will need to apply for a registered copy of your marriage certificate with Births, Deaths and Marriages (BDM) in the state the marriage took place. Once you receive the registered certificate from BDM, you then take this with you to the relevant organisation and they will adjust their records to reflect your new surname accordingly. 

Q:  Do I have to change my surname after the wedding?

A:  No. It’s not a legal requirement that you change your name after the ceremony.

Q:  What time should the groom arrive on the day of the wedding?

A:  I usually suggest about 20-30 minutes before the ceremony should be plenty of time but, if the groom has to travel a distance to get there, it’s a good idea to allow a bit of extra time in case of any traffic delays.